Life-Changing Habits to Start Now

Life-Changing Habits to Start Now

Happy Tuesday everyone! I am taking advantage of today to ease my mind and just relax before my night shift in a few hours. Once again, I am sitting in my favorite coffee house, ready to express the thoughts buzzing around in my head.

As of lately, I’ve had many people question my habits. I know they are just curious, but some times I feel like they think I’m weird for committing to these habits. I know they mean well, and they probably just want to know how I carry out these fixations daily. I guess it’s the insecurity in me that is afraid of explaining the ‘why’ behind my mannerisms.

I have noticed that if someone is doing something out of the ordinary in the bunch, others will be intrigued, and will either start to follow that individual or judge them. Well, if you find yourself always being the odd one out and carrying on with your own habits that spark conversation, don’t feel insecure! If anything, the people questioning you are simply showing you that you are interesting. Wouldn’t you rather be interesting vs. a dull individual?

Not gonna lie, I have some odd habits. However, I consider them “healthy” habits. They make me who I am and I’m proud of myself for committing to these habits because they make me feel good and inspire others to take care of themselves as well. 

Here are some of my habits that have changed my life for the betterment of my health.

1.) Hydrate In the Morning

Obviously, hydrate all day too! By this I mean to wake your body and digestion up with 16oz of some good ol’ H2O. Your body will thank you.

2.) Lift Some Weights

If you’re trying to lose weight, become more toned, or even put on some pounds of muscle, weights will be your friend! My morning weight lifting sessions have helped me over the years in so many ways. I always go to the gym around 6A.M. every day (except for Sundays) to start my day off on the right foot! Make time to take care of your body.

3.) Get Some Beauty Rest

This is SO important! Honestly, I am a little old lady when it comes to sleep. I usually go to bed around 8:30-9pm, which many of my friends tease me about. I love being productive, but I also love sleep. It is vital for all humans in order to function properly. Prioritize your sleep, and I promise you’ll be amazed by how your body reacts to a consistent sleep schedule.

4.) Cook Your Own Meals

Okay, I don’t always follow this because I am addicted to Whole Food‚Äôs salad bar. However, cooking your own meals can be healthier and cheaper for you in the long run! I always bring a prepared meal and snack with me wherever I go if I plan on being out of the house all day. If you don’t have the time to cook your own meals, there are plenty of healthy food options out in the world! Grocery stores, cafes, and even gas stations are so much more accommodating to healthy diets these days.

5.) Express Your Gratitude

Tell your loved ones how you feel about them, and do it often. It never hurts to tell someone you care so much about them, or that you have been thinking about them. You just may make their day! It will fill your heart with love, and that always makes one feel at ease. Life is short, you deserve to be treated right, and so do others.

That’s just a few of my healthy habits that I hope y’all start to implement into your lives! What are some of your weird/healthy/different habits? Feel free to share your thoughts below. ūüôā

-The Positive Peanut


A Good Day

A Good Day

I’m back in the same coffee shop from my previous post. It is silent and tranquil. The owner of the coffee shop knows me by name, and she says it so sweetly. The music playing has a lo-fi vibe, which is perfect for writing in my opinion. My tea is refreshing with subtle hints of cactus blossom. My body aches less, and my mind feels a bit more clear.

It’s suppose to be quite warm today, around the mid 90’s. I use to dream of days like today, now I can happily say that I get to live in these moments daily. My tan is beginning to appear darker with each day, and my skin remains clear due to the vitamin D.

It’s been a while since I have had one of these days. That kind of day where you feel like nothing can disturb your peace of mind. I am going to pursue the kind of day where I can lay in bed tonight and blissfully say that it was a good day.

It’s such a mystery how the mind and body dance with grace to fabricate positive outcomes when there’s an entirely conflicting and dark side as it’s shadow.

I’ve been searching for myself for a while now, and I’m determined to find her within the glow of the sun and the twilight of the moon. Each day and night is an opportunity for growth.

Today is a good day.

-The Positive Peanut

A Bad Day

A Bad Day

“My anxiety is a child who plays tag with my intestines, braids fishtails with my pulse. While she naps unseen under caramel moons, I wake to find her blameless”

-Sade Andria Zabala

Don’t let the title get you twisted. Let me explain further.

You know those days where you constantly feel like your head is stuffed full, and it’s almost as if it could implode any moment? Yeah, I’ve been having that feeling a lot lately.

You feel grumpy, fatigued, and almost sickly. Your energy is low and all you want to do is either bust out all of your priorities, or hibernate under a weighted anti-anxiety blanket for the rest of the year. There isn’t really an in-between feeling.

Then, it feels like there are so many tasks at hand that must be completed soon. So, you’re sitting in a coffee shop, head on the verge of explosion, chest feeling compressed, muscles tight, all while realizing that you have so much shit to do.

Suddenly, a child starts screaming. The room becomes filled with people who are speaking way too loud. The person next to you is coughing every 30 seconds, and isn’t covering their mouth. So. Much. Noise.

You begin to wonder if something is wrong with you. You are so sensitive to these noises and things happening around you. You let it get under your skin and bother you until you finally decide to get up and leave out of discomfort.

This is my anxiety on a bad day. Every thing happening around me that is disturbing my peace becomes unbearable and vexatious. I’m aware that I bring it upon myself, but it’s such a complex concept to get myself to understand and control.

I practice my breathing, reading, writing, and other activities that help ease my mind. However, I feel as if those hobbies only leave me content for a limited amount of time. My mind is always in conflict with time. My mind is overwhelmed. My mind is tired.

These bad days are far and few apart, but addressing them and accepting them when they occur is all part of the plan that is my life. I push myself through these bad days, no matter how much I wish to give up. If I can manage these emotions, headaches, stress, anxiety….So can you. You just need to take it slow.

I’m speaking to myself and others when I say this…You can do it.

-The Positive Peanut

Gut Health; Your Second Brain

Gut Health; Your Second Brain

As I grow older, the more I notice the correlation between my physical state and my mental state. I believe it is something that most people do not think about at all, which is totally understandable since their passions and awareness does not lay within the health and wellness category. However, the interest in gut health has grown rapidly over the years, as people are starting to realize that their gut has a direct effect on ones mental health. Anxiety, depression, panic attacks, and more can be linked to gastrointestinal disorders.

Do you find yourself becoming irritable, anxious, or groggy at times? You may want to be paying attention to your tummy! It tells you more than you know about your well-being. I could digress on the technical terms and how the brain is connected to the gut, but I will keep it short and sweet; basically, the gut and brain are connected through the central and enteric nervous systems, which work together to create a cognitive and emotional function that links with peripheral intestine functions. Your body has millions of neurons lining the gut wall, which are essentially telling your brain what your gut is feeling subconsciously.

Many of us are familiar with serotonin, or the “happy” neurotransmitter. Serotonin helps you feel good mentally, but it also has a huge role in your gastrointestinal motility. More than 90% of serotonin in the body is actually found in the gut. Happy tummy = happy thoughts.

I have struggled with gut health and gastrointestinal issues for years, and yeah it’s kind of embarrassing and uncomfortable to address, but in the end, it is your body that you need to take care of. I had no idea that it was immensely effecting my mental health every day. I would become so insecure and upset when my tummy would become irritable or bloated, but can you blame me? It is so uncomfortable! Obviously it is going to alter my mood if I am having insane cramps and my jeans feel like they’re two sizes too small. I know I’m not the only one who has felt that way, especially being a woman and having to deal with monthly gifts (lol).

Despite my challenges with my gut health, I have improved it over the years through proper nutrition, exercise, and consistent de-stressing exercises. I highly suggest doing your own research from credible sources as well, or even reaching out to a holistic doctor to see what options you can explore to improve your gut health.

Tips for Better Gut Health

1.) Find a good probiotic that also has essential prebiotics to help balance your gut flora.

2.) Consume fermented foods such as kimchi, kefir, or yogurt.

3.) Exercise often! Even going for a 15 minute walk after meals can help with digestion more than you’ll realize!

4.) Drink water like crazy baby. Aim for half your body weight in ounces per day.

5.) De-stress! Stretch, do yoga, get a sports massage, or get outdoors.

6.) Massage your tummy for a few minutes every night.

I hope this post gave you a little more information about gut health and how important it is! ūüôā What do you do to keep your gastrointestinal health in check? Leave a comment below to share your thoughts!

-The Positive Peanut


How To Be Your Own Motivation

How To Be Your Own Motivation

I’ll address the elephant in the room; I haven’t blogged in a while. It’s not that I didn’t want to write, I have just been carrying a heavy load of stress on my back for a few months now.

I know many of you can relate. Stress and depression seriously forces you to slowly slip away from yourself and what you’re passionate about. You may notice a change in how you sleep, eat, behave, and even your appearance. You want to be in a untroubled place, but no matter how hard you try, you still seem to be stagnant in your being.

I know myself well enough to watch out for the things that I do when I am extremely stressed. Some of them are things I cannot control, such as losing my menstrual cycle. Some of them are things I can control, such as eating two pints of ice cream out of complete emotional turmoil. (Yes, it has happened before). All of this may sound sad, but it’s real. I know I’m not alone in this. Im not giving up, I’m just working through these challenges.

I wake up every day and question my purpose, my passion, and my morals. I know this is normal, and I know that my questioning is coming from a place of fear, uncertainty, and lack of confidence. Well, it’s time to knock that shit off. I’m sick of it. I want the best for myself. How am I going to find my motivation again? What steps can I take to feel whole again? I may need some buddies to help keep me accountable. Feel free to write down your own steps for how to better yourself. I like to do this every now and then when I’m feeling completely lost in my journey.

Steps to contentment:

-Start writing at least once a week.

-Get a planner and write each week out every Sunday evening.

-Clean/organize my house at least once a week.

-Read a chapter of a book daily.

-Focus on quality time with friends and family.

-Go for a walk after dinner.

-Get a big ass water bottle and always carry it with me so that I drink at least half my body weight in ounces per day.

-Get as prepared as possible for school in the fall.

That was kind of a lot more than I was expecting, but I think that was needed. It really puts it into perspective when you write it all down and realize what you are missing from your life.

Not to toot my own horn or anything, but I’m gonna make the rest of this year my b*tch. I know I can do this. I fall off my horse every now and then, but my dad always taught me to get back on and handle the horse. That’s exactly what I’m gonna do with life.

Thanks for reading, I hope this post serves you in some way. I hope it’s a great day for you.


– The Positive Peanut

6 Tips to Help Build Lean Muscle

6 Tips to Help Build Lean Muscle

I get many messages over Instagram and text of people (mainly women) asking how to build lean muscle mass and become more toned, confident, and healthy! I’ve made a list in my notes of the things I’ve incorporated into my life that has helped me increase my lean muscle mass over the years. This is a fun topic for me because I love nerding out and sharing my personal experiences with others to hopefully help them reach their goals. It’s awesome because these are simple tips that anyone can use to see the results they want. What it really comes down to is time and persistence. Results won’t appear over night, but if you stay motivated, you’ll see changes before you know it!

I would also like to mention that I am not qualified to give any nutritional information, but I am here to share what has worked for me! If you are struggling with the nutrition side of things, I highly recommend seeing a Dietician or Nutritionist. I can tell you one thing though, we have the power of information at our finger tips and you can seriously Google anything you would ever want to know. If you want to know more about nutrition, you can look up the nutritional requirements for an adult who is trying to maintain lean muscle. Please be careful though, your health is not something to take lightly. You must make sure the sources you are obtaining information from are credible, reliable sources. Once you have an idea of what a healthy diet is, and how it can benefit you, it’s smooth sailing from there.

NOW….. into the nitty gritty.

  1. EAT A CLEAN, WELL-ROUNDED DIET. You will be amazed by how little changes in your diet can make a huge difference in your appearance. I remember when I was committed to a vegan diet, and I thought I was filling my body with healthy options just because they were dairy/meat/egg free. That is not the case, because I didn’t realize how much processed food I was consuming. I was also ingesting large amounts of soy every day, which wasn’t helping me achieve my goals in the long run. Now, I’m not bagging on vegans by any means, I’m just saying I wasn’t doing it correctly. This directed me toward eating more whole foods, such as roasted vegetables, chicken, turkey, eggs, fruits, rice, and other unprocessed foods. This change not only made me feel better, but it also has helped me increase my desired amount of muscle mass and now I look healthier than ever.
  2. GET ON AN EXERCISE ROUTINE. I made the mistake for the longest time of going into the gym every day without a plan. No specific targeted area I wanted to work on, no exercises planned, no specific goals in mind either. I just wanted to stay in shape, like I’m sure many of you do as well. I was cheating myself though. I was not putting in the mental work when it comes to exercising. Once I got a coach, I started to mentally push myself to feel the movements of my workouts. The mind-muscle connection is key. Its better to focus on the movements vs. the amount of weight you can move. Instead of hammering out some bicep curls as fast as I could, I actually focus on feeling the contraction of my muscles so that I know it is benefitting me. My coach gives me “phases” of my weekly workouts, which shows me exactly what I am training Monday-Friday, including cardio time, and supplements. (If you’re seeking an online coach, hit up Shaun Standridge, instagram: wycked_shaun)
  3. DRINK TONS OF WATER. You guys know this! Water is essential for living. We all have those days where we totally do not keep track of how much water we drink, which most likely is less than we are supposed to. I try to drink at least half my body weight in ounces of water per day. For example, if you weight 140lbs, try to drink about 70 ounces of water a day. If you are’t a huge fan of drinking water, try adding BCAAs or crystal light to help you enjoy your fluids. Your water intake has a huge role in digestion, skin appearance, energy levels, and mood. If you want to feel your best, keep on drinking!

4. LIMIT YOUR CAFFEIN INTAKE.¬†I am so guilty of consuming 500mg of caffein per day, and I’ve done it countless times. Granted, I do work for a coffee company where the supply is endless. The morning coffee, the mid-work energy drink, the pre-workout…All day, every day. I was an addict for sure. However, I’ve changed my ways, and so can you! I’ve noticed that the more caffeinated drinks I have during the day, the less energy I have or I don’t even feel a difference in my energy levels at all. Sometimes I crash hard and don’t want to do anything for the rest of the day. You also have to consider the calories that are in your energy drinks and coffee. That alone could be your source of carbs for the day, which will not help you increase your lean muscle mass. Ever since I reduced my caffein intake to about 150mg/day, I’ve noticed myself feeling a lot more energized and more lean (from cutting out the milk in my coffee) and replacing it with water. However, I do enjoy my ultra sunrise monsters occasionally, and those are usually my source of caffein for the day. So try swapping out the regular coffee for decaf, drink more water, or find a less caffeinated version of your favorite drinks!

5. INCREASE NON-EXERCISE ACTIVITY THERMOGENESIS (NEAT). Yes, I know that is a big jumble of words. Basically, NEAT is the time and energy spent that is not eating, sleeping, or working out. It is the physical activity you partake in during your daily business. For example, instead of taking the elevator, take the stairs. If you have a desk job and you find yourself sitting most of the day, get up and walk around the office every hour or so. There are plenty of ways to increase your NEAT, and in return you may notice some positive changes!

6. WORK YOUR ASS OFF. Plain and simple. Do the work, and you will be rewarded. It is almost like a formula, and if you follow all of these tips and work with intention, your desired outcome will show. Sometimes you have to wake up at 4am for the gym, or stay up late meal prepping on the weekends, or even cry on the stair master (guilty) BUT you will be proud. Accomplishing something you put your mind to will give you more confidence than you can imagine. You just gotta work your ass off.

Again, these are all things I incorporate in my daily life and it may work for some of you, and some of you it may not help you at all! Regardless of the outcome, I hope you enjoyed reading. I’m trying to be more transparent with my posts, so if there is anything you readers would like to know about me or a subject along the lines of mental health or fitness, don’t be afraid to drop a comment or shoot an e-mail. ūüôā

-Molls

Mentality vs. Behavior

Mentality vs. Behavior

Do you find yourself questioning your own thoughts or actions? Both have been something I’ve been dwelling on for the past few months. The substantial amount of brain activity that I am using is becoming too much, leaving me lethargic and longing to waste the day away being trapped in my feelings with no beneficial actions in return.

I know I’m not alone, despite how lonely I can feel at times. I’m sure many of you know that feeling. You can be the most radiating person in the room, but once that moment is over, your glow begins to fade. Your mentality is shot to shit, and you feel so insignificant. Welcome to your mentality, or “mindset”.

Your mentality is your personal view, feelings, ideas, or even biases about a situation, person, or thing. You’re probably much more aware of your mindset now, huh? You’re thinking about how you’re feeling in this moment, or maybe you’re trying to distract yourself from another situation that you’re feeling mentally overwhelmed by. Regardless of why you’re here reading this right now, you are aware of your mentality.

The question is- how is your mentality effecting your behavior? Are you going to let your vulnerability act for you, or are you going to behave accordingly to your desired mindset?

For example, say you were at the mall and decided to try on a pair of jeans that you desperately wanted. You’re in the fitting room, wiggling into the hopefully perfect jeans. Zip, button, turn….They look awful on you. They make your butt look nonexistent and your love handles are peaking out to say hello. You think you look ridiculous, so you feel discouraged, and you begin to cry. While it is a relatable and upsetting example, your mentality is everything that you THOUGHT, and your behavior is everything that you DID (get upset, cry).

All are connected. Your thoughts and feelings influence your behaviors, and your actions/behaviors influence your thoughts. It is inevitable that we create our own misery most of the time, but the amazing fact is that we have the ability to change our mindset. Now, this change isn’t going to happen over night. Think of as training your mind to see situations in a brighter light.

Your present situation is not permanent. Visualize how you want your future to look. Maybe you imagine being more fit, wealthy, independent, or healthy. Whatever it may be, it is possible for you to obtain. It is so easy to get sucked into comfortability, and I find myself being stuck in a rut every now and then because of this. I cannot tell you how many times I’ve had to pick myself up off the ground and tell myself to get my shit together. The key is to having the willpower and determination to do the heavy lifting.

Your mindset can improve simply by starting small, such as surrounding yourself with positive friends, challenging your thoughts, creating a healthy routine, or even sending thank you notes. Not only are you creating a healthier mindset, but you are also influencing positive behavior. There are so many ways to feel complete and untroubled, you just have to find what works or you.

Happy Wednesday ūüôā

Seasons of Life

Seasons of Life

2019, damn. I thought we would be living life like the Jetsons by now!

As I reflect on the past twenty-one years of my life, I have realized at a young age that life comes in seasons. Spring could be lovely, bringing you so much joy and experiences, while Summer can bring stress, loneliness, and challenges.

I try to remember that the difficult seasons are temporary, and that something wonderful is on it’s way. I think that the most unfortunate thought of all, is that other people experience bad season after bad season. My only hope is that others get to experience more sublime seasons than adverse ones.

During this season of life, I have experienced so much change. It is not a bad season by any means, but more inconvenient I suppose. I had so much planned, and it was going in such a perfectly straight line. Ever since I got back from visiting my family in Oregon over the holidays, so much was brought to my attention; I am not growing in the way I intended to be at this age. I am not in school, I am not learning what I want to be well equipped in. I feel as if I am holding myself back from my true potential.

These realizations have caused me to make some very difficult and drastic decisions. I have decided to go back to school, attend a University, and actually push myself to obtain a degree that I can be satisfied with. I don’t think I was ever that invested in school, I just did it to get by and go with the flow of society. Now, I can see how I was holding myself back from my capabilities. I was never “bad” at school, I just wasn’t as motivated to learn as much as I am now. I’ve realized that it’s time to nut up (lol) and make shit happen for myself so that I can be satisfied with my life.

This decision has caused a lot of sadness to enter my life as well. I might have to leave my life that I have created in Arizona to move back to Oregon. Nothing is set in stone yet, but the thought is terrifying and exhilarating. My heart is torn, and despite the difficulties of this season, I know I will pull through and things will be okay in the end. I won’t allow myself to not be okay. That is absolutely unacceptable, considering I was once so desolate.

I’ve decided that I am going to be persistent in 2019. That is the word I am going to live by for the year to come, and I will continue to live by in 2020. The goal is to be persistent in all aspects of my life; school, work, health, friends and family.

I think that if one realizes what characteristics they are lacking, they can improve their abilities and learn from those around them. I have always struggled with finding balance with the most important factors in my life, but I am determined to become better at this in 2019.

Seasons can be beautiful, and my hope is to grow stronger between now and the years to come.

I wish the best for you all during this season of life.

Bikini Prep Diary #3- Holiday Edition

Bikini Prep Diary #3- Holiday Edition

T-minus five days till…

CHRISTMAS!

There is so much to appreciate during this time of year. People tend to be in better moods, and are more giving, loving, and empathetic. It is truly wonderful, and it makes me feel so at peace.

I am currently waiting to board a flight to my home town to finally spend Christmas with my family. It has been two years since I’ve spent a holiday with them, so I am extremely grateful that I was able to do it this year. My head is full of positive thoughts, and I can’t wait to love on my family and friends.

I’ll be honest though, I am a little nervous about being on prep during this trip. I am 12 weeks out, so it’s getting close to crunch time! The house I grew up in is about 25 minutes away from the nearest grocery store and gym, which I will need daily access to. I’ll be lucky if my dad lets me drive his truck, because last time I visited, I managed to back into it which left a pretty huge dent on the side. I’m just nervous about balancing my goals withy family time, but I know that my family supports me in this and will understand what I need to do and why.

I’m not too worried about staying on track, because I am very disciplined and self-assured. I want to succeed in this journey. As much as I will want my grandma’s christmas cookies, the thought of me being on stage with an incredible physique is so much more satisfying.

If you struggle to stay on track and committed to your healthy routine during the holidays, you’re not alone! Everyone wants to pig out on all of the goodies laying around, and then fall asleep with a full tummy. I really wish I could do that. With that being said, I have a few tips for anyone who is seeking advice for living healthfully during the holiday season!

Prep¬†your¬†meals!¬†Make¬†it¬†a¬†priority.¬†Sure,¬†you¬†may¬†have¬†people¬†comment¬†on¬†how¬†odd¬†it¬†is¬†to¬†eat¬†differently¬†than¬†the¬†others,¬†but¬†assure¬†them¬†of¬†your¬†goals¬†and¬†they¬†should¬†understand.¬†If¬†they¬†don’t understand,¬†frick¬†them.¬†

Cut out the alcohol. This is so hard for many people! Especially because everyone wants to get tipsy and have a good, care free time. If you plan on having a drink or two, stick to a vodka soda or something  low-calorie. 

Be¬†mindful¬†when¬†eating.¬†For¬†example,¬†being¬†aware¬†of¬†how¬†many¬†handfuls¬†of¬†popcorn¬†you’ve¬†had,¬†or¬†the¬†amount¬†of¬†cookies¬†you’ve¬†eaten.¬†It’s¬†easy¬†to¬†let¬†your¬†habits¬†get¬†the¬†best¬†of¬†you¬†and¬†“only¬†have¬†one¬†more.”¬†Eat¬†slowly,¬†drinks¬†after,¬†and¬†enjoy.

-Be¬†active!¬†It¬†is¬†so¬†important¬†to¬†move¬†our¬†bodies¬†and¬†give¬†them¬†some¬†fresh¬†air,¬†especially¬†if¬†you’ve¬†been¬†indulging¬†in¬†many¬†treats.¬†It¬†may¬†sound¬†like¬†the¬†last¬†thing¬†you’ll¬†want¬†to¬†do,¬†but¬†I¬†promise¬†you¬†that¬†you’ll¬†feel¬†so¬†much¬†better¬†taking¬†a¬†walk¬†after¬†dinner.

Be¬†present.¬†it is¬†so¬†easy¬†to¬†get¬†caught¬†up¬†in¬†all¬†of¬†the¬†stress¬†that¬†the¬†holidays¬†bring,¬†but¬†you’ve¬†got¬†to¬†try¬†to¬†keep¬†in¬†mind¬†that¬†it’s¬†a¬†time¬†for¬†love,¬†family,¬†friends,¬†and¬†pure¬†enjoyment.¬†It¬†will¬†benefit¬†your¬†mentality¬†with¬†achieving¬†your¬†goals.

I just want to make it clear that if you are unable to meal prep, that is OK! Shoot, if you are unable to do any of this, that is okay, as long as it is okay to you. Your health and happiness matters. Don’t kill yourself over trying to be the picture of health this holiday season, but it’s important to challenge yourself. Otherwise, how will you grow?

If you can discipline yourself, you will set yourself up for success and I promise you will reach your goals. Think about what you want, plan ahead how you can achieve it, take action, and don’t stop until you’re satisfied.

I encourage you to take the next step in your self-improvement journey, whatever it may be. If it is attempting to eat healthier, I hope this post has served you. Writing these kinds of posts really make my day, so thank you endlessly for reading.

Starting A New Life

Starting A New Life

I never really understood why, but I have so many people constantly reaching out to me, asking how I managed to move 2,000 miles away from everything and everyone I grew up around at such a young age. Then I started to realize that I’m almost too independent for my own good, and not every one has the ability to just get up and go. I figured I would dig into my thoughts on this subject to help others who are seeking the possibility to move and start a new journey.¬†

I get asked questions such as:

“Why did you want to move away?”

“What has been challenging? Rewarding?”

“Why do I stay?”

“What do I miss about my home town vs. where I live now?”

“What advice would you give someone who is wanting to move from their home town?”

Well, my friends, lets get into it.

First off, let me explain that I am from a small town in Oregon. I spent much of my time in Springfield/Eugene since many of my friends lived there, and my school was there as well. It wasn’t a glamorous city, but it was home. I knew it like the back of my hand, and everyone pretty much knew each other, or dated one another.¬†

This brings me to my reasoning of why I wanted to move away. Now, I do not have bitter feelings toward my home town, nor any one that lived there, I was jut simply tired of living the same 24 hours every single day. I was in a rut, and as much as I didn’t want to admit it, it caused me deliberate unhappiness. The weather was something that really effected me as well. It was cold, wet, and numbing; mentally and physically. Some people love it (Mom, if you’re reading this, I’m talking to you), but I definitely thrive in the sunshine. Throughout my childhood, my family and I would take trips to Arizona around the holidays every year. I fell in love with the city of Scottsdale, which is where my grandma’s vacation home resided. I remember telling myself at a young age, that I would live here someday. That someday ended up being a few weeks after I graduated high school.¬†

My moving experience was not all sunshine and rainbows. I faced many challenges that I didn’t consider until they started happening to me. I was so hyped on the idea of living on my own and having so much freedom, that I didn’t even think about how lonely I was. I thought I was doing all of the right things for myself, such as going to school, going to work, grocery shopping, working out, and just being an adult. Soon after doing all of this repeatedly for a few months, I realized that I was back in a rut of unhappiness. I wasn’t content with my performance in school, I didn’t like my job at the time, I was in a suffocating relationship, and the stress was causing me to eat my weight in peanut butter. I sat myself down, prioritized, and took action. I started working for Dutch Bros again, which was a huge source of happiness for me. I’ve met so many of my friends since working there, even my current boyfriend. I took a break from school, and am now in a healthy routine. The challenges will be endless, but I have peace in knowing that I made it through those hard times, and I’m better prepared for more.

Now, the most rewarding thing I have obtained from this big move, is my improvement in self awareness. I am more aware of my feelings, actions, and just all around sense of self. I know what I want, when I want it, and how to get it. ¬†I really feel like I have grown into someone I never thought I could be. I have learned how to be more selfless, loving, patient, and kind. I have also created relationships that I couldn’t see myself having back in Oregon. Starting life over in a new city challenges you to get outside of your comfort zone. When you go from feelings so completely broken and lonely, you really get a grasp of how good it feels to connect with other human beings.¬†

I’ll be honest…Oregon summer’s are my weakness. Every time I go back to visit my family over the summer, I fall in love all over again. I want to stay so bad. Some of my best friends are there, so are my pets, and the ability to constantly be doing an outdoor activity. ¬†Once I get my hands on a fishing pole, I suddenly have an incredible amount of patience. Once I get my hiking shoes on, I could adventure on all day and night. I miss those summer memories. I’ve never felt more content than when I am canoeing up river to my favorite island, sitting by a fire under the stars with my friends, or picking fresh blueberries with my mom. Unfortunately, Oregon summers only last about three months. That’s where the love fades and I have to come back to reality, and Arizona. I could easily move back, as I feel I am more accepting to rain now, but half of my heart is in Arizona. I stay because I am happy with the life I have created. Oregon will always be home, but there is only a small town with so little to offer. I’ve done all the growing that I could there.¬†

My advice to anyone who is craving the adventure that is being held hostage from them in their home town is to just freaking go. I didn’t think about it too much, I just knew why and where I wanted to go, and I went. I made it happen because it felt right in my heart. Yes, you leave behind so much, but you have a ton to learn and gain as well. Your friends will always be your friends, and your family will always be your family. They will understand if you want to leave and experience new things. You can be happy some where else, too. It will always be home. You can always return. Also, make sure you’re financially prepared. That would be shit if you moved, ran out of money within a few months, and had to move back home. Have a nice amount saved up, enough to last you three to four months so you can be well off until you get a job. Another piece of advice I can offer is to be very aware of your surroundings. Carry pepper spray, a knife, a gun, anything to protect yourself in case of emergency. It’s a dog eat dog world out there, and people are crazy.¬†

Lastly, take care of yourself. Be fearless, hard-working, care free, and good-natured. Good things will come to you. I hope this gave some of you the courage to take the next step in your life. Feel free to leave comments or questions below, or reach out in the contact category. I hope you all have a wonderful weekend!